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- Jonathan Lockwood Huie (jlh @sail7.com)
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Saturday, June 27, 2015

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Causes of Violence

Where there is no emotion,
there is no motive for violence.
- the character Spock in the Star Trek television series


Is the above quote true? What are the real causes of violence?

At first hearing, the Spock quote seems to ring true. A look at the front page of any newspaper would tend to confirm that the world's violent conflicts are caused by emotions run amok: White/Black hatred, Christian/Muslim hatred, Sunni/Shia hatred. A look at individual violence also shows most to have a cause based in emotions: people kill others they are angry with far more often than they commit strong-arm robbery simply out of greed.

On the other hand, non-emotional violence for the purpose of theft has also been around as long as humankind. Think of the Mongols conquering most of Asia  - highly violent, but not emotionally based. Or think of the conquests of Alexander the Great. While it shows up less often in modern life, theft/greed is also a major cause of both personal and institutional violence.


Other perspectives on violence:

The cause of violence ... is self-interest.
- William Sloane Coffin, Jr.


War does not determine who is right -
only who is left.
- Bertrand Russell

Sunday, June 7, 2015

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Falling in Love

Reader's question: Need advice from you Sir! Is it good to fall in love????

My Reply:

“Fall in love” is such an interesting expression.

It is good to love others.  It is good to have an exclusive sexual relationship in which the partners truly care about, and respect, each other. It is never good to be needy, or to feel dependent upon another.

Love one another but make not a bond of love.
Let it rather be a moving sea
between the shores of your souls.
- Khalil Gibran

Lord, grant that I might not so much
seek to be loved as to love.
- St. Francis of Assisi

Love does not claim possession, but gives freedom.
- Rabindranath Tagore

Love is granting another the space to be
the way they are and the way they are not.
- Werner Erhard

Know the power and the peace of saying,
"I love you just the way you are."
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Read my article How to Avoid Falling in Love with Love

If you have a more specific question, please email me again at sail7 @ sail7 . com

May the world be kind to you, and may your own thoughts be gentle upon yourself.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie



Thursday, June 4, 2015

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The Dog and the Shadow - A Fable by Aesop


The Dog and the Shadow
 - A Fable by Aesop

It happened that a Dog had got a piece of meat and was
carrying it home in his mouth to eat it in peace.  Now on his way
home he had to cross a plank lying across a running brook.  As he
crossed, he looked down and saw his own shadow reflected in the
water beneath.  Thinking it was another dog with another piece of
meat, he made up his mind to have that also.  So he made a snap at
the shadow in the water, but as he opened his mouth the piece of
meat fell out, dropped into the water and was never seen more.

Beware lest you lose the substance by grasping at the shadow.

Tuesday, June 2, 2015

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Thoughts on Trust

Trust is not necessary when you don't want or need anything.
If you are wondering whether you can "trust" someone,
look closely at what it is you think you need or want from them.

When you need or want nothing, trust is not an issue.
- Neale Donald Walsch

Hmmm?!? Really?

I generally agree with Neale Donald Walsch, and always find his ideas thought provoking. However completely dismissing the value of "trust" seems extreme.

"Trust" seems to me to be yet another of the many domains in which a moderate perspective is best. I do agree that "trust" is generally overvalued by those who are needy and insecure. Consider the demand to "trust" that a relationship will never grow beyond its current boundaries -- that current personal or business partners will never wish to expand and move on. Surely, that exhibits neediness and insecurity.

Love does not claim possession, but gives freedom.
- Rabindranath Tagore


Our loved ones -
whether by blood, by marriage, or by choice -
are delicate treasures.
If we hold them too close, they break -
as a butterfly would.
By honoring and enjoying
the freedom of our loved ones,
we gain our own freedom.
Have the courage to trust that
the beautiful butterflies of your life
will return - or not - as life intends.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie


On the other hand, I contend that certain levels of trust are essential. You really do need to trust that your spouse won't slit your throat while you sleep. To do otherwise would be paranoid, and create a miserable life.

So where to draw the line on "trust?" When do you believe what your spouse, or your business partner, or your banker, or a politician says -- and when do you verify? It must be a balance -- determined by what gives you the greatest quality of life.

You may be deceived if you trust too much,
but you will live in torment
if you don't trust enough.
- Frank Crane

Anyone who doesn't take truth seriously in small matters
cannot be trusted in large ones either.
- Albert Einstein


Monday, May 25, 2015

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How can I get rid of bad dreams?

Reader question: How can I get rid of bad dreams?

My answer:

That depends on the nature of the bad dreams.

If the dreams are about a single subject, address that issue. For example, if the dreams are about a fight you had with someone, focus on forgiving that person. If the dreams are about getting fired from your job, have a conversation with yourself about the way in which you might actually be better off if you lost your current job.

However, if your nightmares are varied, and the only common element is that they are scary, focus on your big fears of life and death. If you can identify your biggest worries and stresses, address those. If you believe in a benevolent God and in an afterlife, reaffirm those beliefs. Remind yourself that you are protected and safe.

Another cause of bad dreams can be your physical state. Make sure you get some exercise, consider doing yoga and/or qigong, eat well, avoid caffeine and excess alcohol, and get regular medical checkups.

May the world be kind to you, and may your own thoughts be gentle upon yourself.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Wednesday, May 13, 2015

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If America Became a Christian Nation


A new command I give you: Love one another.
As I have loved you, so you must love one another.
- Jesus of Nazareth (John 13:34)


If anyone has material possessions and sees his brother in need
but has no pity on him, how can the love of God be in him?
- 1 John 3:17


Guide our feet into the way of peace.
- Luke 1:79


Depart from Me, you cursed... for I was hungry and you gave Me no food; I was thirsty and you gave Me no drink; I was a stranger and you did not take Me in, naked and you did not clothe Me, sick and in prison and you did not visit Me.
- Matthew 25:41-43

It is common for those that are farthest from God,
to boast themselves most of their being near to the Church.
- Matthew Henry


I highly recommend that you go to to time.com/3856484/america-christian-nation/ to read Time magazine's article: If America Became a Christian Nation.

The essence of the article is...

1. To be truly Christian is to follow the teachings of Jesus, and to live the principles He lived.

2. A number of the principles held most dear by some who stridently claim Christianity are actually diametrically opposed to Jesus' principles. These include war; a gun culture; choosing to deny food, health care, and love to the sick and poor among us; and excluding migrants.


Sunday, May 10, 2015

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Physical Pain

Reader question: I experience a lot of pain after a recent surgery, how can I remain joyful and positive in spite of this?

My reply:

Physical pain is the most challenging obstacle we have to face, and the one least amenable to overcoming purely through attitude. Nonetheless..

1. First apply a positive attitude toward the the other issues that are probably accompanying your physical pain, such as… the fear that the pain will get worse or never go away.  Unlike physical pain, fear and worry are relatively easy to overcome through a positive attitude.

2. I find great help from self healing, and those who are more inclined toward prayer healing often find that helpful. There are many systems of self healing or prayer healing, but you can also just keep it very simple. Visualize a white light shining down on the painful area, and give thanks in advance for the healing that is about to occur. Whether is is due to the power of God, the placebo effect, or something else entirely, it does work for those who believe it works.

3. Just take one day at a time — or one minute at a time when the pain is really bad. Believe that tomorrow will be a better day.

Tell your heart that the fear of suffering
is worse than the suffering itself.
- Paulo Coelho

Anyone can heal who believes that he can
and will take the time to put that belief into motion.
- Ernest Holmes

Gratitude in advance is the most powerful
creative force in the universe.
- Neale Donald Walsch

Courage doesn't always roar.
Sometimes courage is the quiet voice
at the end of the day, saying,
"I will try again tomorrow."
- Mary Anne Radmacher

May the world be kind to you, and may your own thoughts be gentle upon yourself.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie