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Wednesday, April 11, 2012

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Time to Move On


Question: I have suffered a lifetime of abuse, disrespect and humiliation within the circle of my immediate family. I have finally walked away and expressed that I will not ever, ever, ever, tolerate disrespect, ever again. What do you suggest Mr. Huie, to ease the pain.

My Answer:

Yes, be done with those who continue to hurt you.

Try to let go of the anger and hate, but be done - and don't look back.

Build other relationships. Join supportive groups. Especially look for opportunities to be of service to those less fortunate than yourself.

Read my article How to Move On and Let Go

These two article are addressed to somewhat different problems, but you may find some relevant thoughts in them:
How to Forgive and Move On
Don't Stay in a Broken Marriage "For the Children"

Once you have seen the truth,
you must make the decision to let go
of the pain, anger, and resentment you have been holding on to.
This requires you to take action.
If you are attached to your pain, resentment,
and self-righteousness, and addicted to your emotional reactions,
this will be a difficult step for you.
Taking action requires letting go of the very thing
you have been holding on to for so many years.
There is comfort in what we find familiar,
even if we are experiencing pain and suffering.
The pain and suffering itself becomes the familiarity we seek.
It takes absolute faith in yourself
plus courage, will, and discipline to let go.
But once you let go, it will be as if
the weight of the world has been taken off your shoulders.
In this process it is important to forgive
not just the others in our lives, but also ourselves.
For most people, giving ourselves
the gift of forgiveness is very challenging.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

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- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

5 comments:

KEVIN GAMMON said...

FORGIVENESS PLAYS A BIG PART IN OUR LIVES
SOME TIMES WE HOLD ON TO THINGS IT;S NOT
HURTING OTHERS IT;S HURTING US; BECAUSE THEY;RE GOING ON WITH THERE LIVES;AND WERE STILL GOING
ON HOLDING BAGGAGE AND PAIN; SUFFERING FROM
WHAT HAPPENED IN THE PAST;I KNOW IT;S EASIER SAID THEN DONE; FORGIVENESS IS SOMETHING YOU HATH TO WORK ON ;AND LET BY GON;S BE BY GON;S

Anonymous said...

Wow. I believe there are no such things as coincidences and it is certainly no coincidence that I read this today. I could have written that question. Seeing your answer reaffirms what I need to do in order to find peace. What happened to me was wrong, and the recent aftermath was just as painful; however, I was allowing the pain to consume me. Forgiveness isn't for the other person. It will not be an overnight matter, but I am learning to love myself the ways the other person never did, and that will make this process of letting go easier.

Tracy Haynes said...

As god has forgiven you, you must forgive as well.

Donna Rue said...

Don't ever let rude people drag you down. That is a personal problem they have and can never get over, unless they will it. Stay around happy people and ignore the grumpy ones!!

linda wilson kolb said...

It is always best to trust your Gut, not always your heart, but gut. Your heart may stear you wrong- your gut never will.
Linda A Wilson Kolb August 20, 2015

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